Let’s Talk About Weight

I really hate this obsession our culture has around weight. I am all for being conscious of your health and taking care of your body, but we have reached a level of fixation on weight that is just ridiculous. It has gotten to the point where people’s moods and sense of self worth are based on a number. This number can fluctuate up to SEVEN pounds a day, due to water, food intake, time of day, etc., yet we let it dictate our feelings and confidence.

I am 5’2. 5’2½” on a really good day. But what I lack for in height I certainly make up for in heft. I have a body that has been built from 13 years of dance and gymnastics. These powerful thighs have been made from thousands of jumps, tumbles, rope climbs. Thanks to my mama, and the lovely volumptuous ladies in my family, I’ve got a booty, and it’s staying there. Am I fat? No. Could I run through a wall like that opening seen in The Incredibles? Probably. Looking at me, I do not think that the majority of people would think that I am unhealthily heavy. However, according to arbitrary numbers like the BMI scale, I’m pushing that overweight line.

Your weight is not necessarily an indicator of physical fitness and health. Right now I am the healthiest I have ever been in my life. I exercise daily; I eat real, nutritious food. I hang out with friends and enjoy popcorn movie nights. I am able to lift heavier weights than my father. I take rest days where I do not change out of my pajamas. I am the happiest I have ever been in my life. And you know what? I am pretty sure I’m at the highest weight I have ever been in my life.

So many of us aim for these ridiculous numbers, thinking that some pot of gold and endless happiness awaits once we reach it. But you know what happens? After torturing ourselves and finally get to that number, we’re still unhappy. We ‘can’t’ eat the foods we want, do the things we want to do, and chances are we will already have our eyes fixed on some other crazy number that will force us to be even less kind to our bodies.

Your best weight is not the one that you have to force your body into. It is not the one created from fasts, countless miles on the treadmill, and unhealthy deprivation. It is not the one that you have to go to war with your body for, stripping it of the love and care it’s entitled to.


Your best weight is whatever weight you reach when you’re living the healthiest life that you actually enjoy.


Let me repeat that.


Your best weight is whatever weight you reach when you’re living the healthiest life that you actually enjoy.

It’s the weight where you eat foods that nourish your body and your soul. It’s the weight that gives you strength to challenge your body in workouts. It’s the weight that allows you to feel confident in your clothes no matter what size is on that tag. And let me get this straight: you are allowed to love your body at any weight, any size, and any shape. Your body, whatever state it’s in, is  a l w a y s  entitled to love, respect, and chocolate.

I don’t know what I weigh. I haven’t weighed myself in years. I decided to stop caring about that number and just focus on how I feel. Right now, I feel pretty damn good. I invite you all to let go of numbers, sizes, and all of that nonsense, and to just focus on feeling good in your body. That, and you’re all invited to have a smash the scale party with me.  Xx


3 thoughts on “Let’s Talk About Weight

  1. Alexandra says:

    Hey, I just found your page! Thanks for the post. I’ve been recovering from an ED and my BMI is definitely higher than I want, so messages like yours definitely inspire me. Also, when you said your BMI was a bit high I was incredulous because I NEVER would have guessed from your pictures! Which also helps me see that BMI is stupid and arbitrary. So thank you!


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